If there is any word that describes us, it would probably have to be restless. While many of our closest friends and family back home seem to find great satisfaction in settling down, creating a home, and growing roots, we are always craving something new, something adventurous, and something foreign.
This is the main reason we have chosen life as expats. We can’t imagine ourselves ever staying in one place too long.
We’re always on the go!
But time does seem to speed up sometimes, and many fellow expats talk about waking up one day to realize they’ve been in the same place for years – even though that wasn’t their intention.
We have so many places we want to live and experience as expats, not just travelers. So we know we have to guard ourselves from accidentally settling down.
When do we think it’s time to move on? These telltale signs are red flags for us:
Life starts to become routine.
We are living abroad because we want an exciting life. When our home base loses its luster and routines become the norm, it’s time to shake things up. Some questions to ask yourself: Are you eating the same meals from the same restaurants every day? Is every road familiar to you now? Has it been months since you’ve tried something new?
You aren’t as excited to return “home” after a holiday anymore.
One of the best parts about living as an expat is that you don’t experience the end-of-holiday blues anymore – you love your travels, AND you love being “home” in your new country. But when your return to day-to-day life is getting you down, it might be time to consider moving on.
How are you feeling on your return flight?
You’re getting annoyed easily.
You might find yourself becoming irritable at the most trivial things and start blaming it on the country. Traffic, slow service, even the weather – is it getting under your skin and affecting your moods?
You are no longer surprised by cultural differences.
When you first arrived, there was a surprise around every corner. People and life were unpredictable. Everything felt so random, and it was easy to romanticize the weirdest things – even crapping on squatter toilets or the crazy Asian way of driving. But eventually that surprise fades, and you start knowing what to expect. It’s time for a new challenge!
Bangkok’s traffic is beyond words.
A lot of your friends have already moved on.
One of the best parts of being an expat is finding friends who also love to travel. But your social circle will constantly be evolving because people are coming and going all the time. If your original group of friends has dwindled, it probably means you’ve been settled in for awhile. Are you ready to try something new, too?
You’ve explored most of the country and its surroundings.
Seeing an entire country or region is impossible, but if you live somewhere long enough it might feel like you have. If you’re planning your next long weekend, and you’re feeling like you’ve already done it all, it’s probably time to set up home in a new part of the world.
Your reasons for staying are mostly about finances.
There are plenty of countries where you can get a good paycheck compared to the low cost of living. If you’ve been somewhere too long, you might start to think you’ll never get it this good anywhere else. There are actually opportunities all around the world. Relocating might take a little extra coin, but finances definitely don’t need to hold you back.
Your reasons for staying are about comfort and ease.
Maybe you’re enjoying the comfortable life you’ve made. If you are truly happy, that is great! But think back to the day you first left your home country. Were you looking for comfort? Did you want an easy life? Or were you expecting something more? Have those desires changed?
You aren’t feeling inspired at work anymore.
If your expat life is tied to your career, staying fresh and motivated at your job is essential. As teachers, we can fall in a rut if we stay put too long. New schools and new students give us a boost of energy and inspiration, especially when we are switching to a new age group, subject, or educational approach.
You need a lot of energy and creativity to teach!
Leave while it’s still good.
Actually, our best advice is to leave before any of the above happens. In fact, we think it’s best to leave when things are still really exciting and fun. Why? Because you are preserving your memories and leaving on a high note. If you wait until life is getting a bit stale, that might be what you remember when thinking back to that city. It’s a brave decision to make your exit during happier times, but wouldn’t it be horrible to resent a place that’s give you some of the best memories of your life?
We’d love to hear from other expats! When do you decide to move on? Have you ever stayed somewhere too long? Share your experiences below.
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